1-minute of Intimacy

I guess with a title like that you have to wonder what the heck Mr. Cole is going to unpack this time huh? Actually I was reflecting this morning on what sets the tone for a good day in my life before I walk out the door for work each morning. Usually my head begins to turn to thoughts of what my workday will hold soon after I wake up. Sometimes this is what gets me out of bed in the morning and I don't much care for that. When this happens, there is usually an element of anxiety.

I would characterize the relationship Kristi and I have as a married couple as fairly "normal"-if you can equate inclusion of "yours truly" in anything that can be defined as normal that-is. I was thinking this morning about what I consider to be our most intimate moment together. For me it's a mere 1-minute or so (I know what you're thinking). The most intimate time I spend with my wife is the 1-minute or so I spend holding her while I pray with her before I walk out the door to work in the morning. Sometimes Kristi does the praying but usually it's me that does. I'm not always in the spirit for it and when I'm not, Kristi insists that I be the one to do the praying that morning. She realizes that it's important for me to surrender to God from my own mouth than through hers. I'm blessed to have a wife so wise. There are times though-that my heart is so grieved that she takes control. I'm grateful for that.

This brief time together each morning is something special that unless you take the time to do it, is difficult to describe what that intimacy feels like. I can tell you though-when your Pastor preaches to you that when you allow God to be at the center of your relationship it makes a difference. It does; and there is usually a huge hole or void in my attitude on the days we don't start with that minute of intimacy. If praying with your wife is not something you normally do, try it. As a man, this is something your wife will appreciate and it is something that will find you putting God at the center of and at the start of each day and will change both the onset and outcome of the circumstances of your day.