Mommy Porn

Mommy Porn; that’s how you’ll see the best-selling book "50 Shades of Grey" labeled when you Google it.  For the record I haven’t read the book nor will I.  I have read excerpts and heard several comments now from women who have read the book.  I also know my wife won’t read it because she knows God wants her to be a godly woman. I’m grateful that she is making a wise choice.   

I’ve heard so many comments about the book.  Here’s a common one from married women: “I read some more of the book and was so horny I had to get a jump when I got done reading.”  So what’s the harm? I suppose most men could care less what your motive is to jump his bones but the thing is you brought another person into your bed.  You see it isn’t your husband that got you aroused-it was someone else, your fantasy.  

I’m overreacting of course-right?  I’ve also heard women say this book is not porn (which is classified as Erotica by the way) because there aren’t any pictures like there are in men’s magazines. This is interesting that most women wouldn’t want their husband reading Playboy but its okay for them to read text-only porn.  Do you know men have access to text-only porn as well?  Its been around for years.  God forbid a teenage boy gets his hands on one of his dad’s Playboys.  That’s just not good and I don’t think any mother would think otherwise.

Now if you think any of what I just said is just a lot of nonsense coming from someone who obviously doesn’t like sex or his wife doesn’t let me set the record straight. I love sex very much and if I may speak for my wife-she does too.  My concern is that there is recklessness in this kind of material and you moms need to come to grips with it. 

Mom’s if nothing else you have a responsibility to raise your daughters to be godly ladies and that is the example you need to set.

A female friend told me this morning that she hadn’t read it yet and she’s curious to know what all the excitement over it is. She said she is waiting for her 14 year old daughter to finish reading it. She had a sense of urgency as I enlightened her a little about what I know about the book.  You married moms have an outlet when you get aroused from a book like this but let me ask you-who is your unmarried daughter’s outlet going to be? 

Show and Tell

God uses our imperfect motivations to bring us close

People came to hear Jesus teach because word had spread of His story-telling, healing, feeding and comforting. He entertained, healed, fed and comforted first.  He met people where they were at-He met their needs.  God uses our imperfect motivations to bring us close.  Once He did that people were open to listening to Him and they wanted to know more. He was drawing crowds. Likewise today the un-churched have little interest in hearing a gospel message until they know what’s in it for them.  That sounds selfish-right?  Not so fast.  We love to tell people “Jesus will meet you right where you are at” but preaching and reaching can be very different. Meeting needs up front is not wrong; it is understanding who it is you are trying to reach and showing them the gospel before trying to teach it to them.  Today if you preach too much about what Jesus can do for you, you get criticized.  If your worship band is responsible for filling most of the seats you get criticized for caving to consumerism.  Either Jesus caved or He simply knew that telling stories (He was an entertainer too), making someone feel better, comforting them and feeding them was going to make a way for explaining why He did these things.  That’s not consumerism-that’s just plain common sense. One of the biggest challenges for churches is to win a person’s time. If that means you have to tell a great story or put on a great worship set then so be it. Jesus Himself knew He had to reel them in before they would be open to His teaching.  Jesus did not however reel them in with false hope and the rewards He spoke of were not all reserved for the afterlife.  To believe that Jesus would not reward those in exchange for their time is absurd…He did...often.

Hebrews 11:6~And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.